Does your friend actually live near you?

Half of people feel proud of themselves just beacuse they have a lot of friends. They think that 'their friends' can fill their daily life with joyness. Half people call their friends as their family, or maybe more priority than their family. They think that their friends are same as treasure. You call them as your best listener, best motivator, best advicer, etc. Do you ever think that 'your friends' actually live near you? i don't mean to talk about where're your friends live, but i talk about where're your friends when you're really need them? Do you ever feel that your friends just take an advantage of your kindness? or just take a benefit when they're near you? maybe now, you don't feel it, but maybe later when they have 'a new target who can give a lot of benefits'. I think your friends are the greatest hider of their beast side. Yup, some of you won't be know that 'some of your fellows' are just take a benefit from you. I don't think, it can be called as a definition of 'real friendship' right?
The key of real friendship is : they're afraid of losing you in all things, not like : they're afraid of losing you because they're afraid of losing their benefits and feel same as trash (nothing). I mean, they're afraid of losing you in all case, they always remember you in their minds, they always there and ready to listen and hear either your bad or good story. They always give their hands when you need them (but don't you dare to take an advantage of their kindness, it calls sin). They always ready to wipe your tears and who always be the first person who know your loud cries and scream, even your stupid laugh.
Real friendship is about respect others and be respected, don't you dare to be respected but you're not respect others, don't be bossy, don't control your friends, because there isn't a friendship with a rule, be free and don't be controled by your friend, it calls selfish. Example : when your friend makes a rule that you are forbidden to have a crush in a same squad, how it can be....? it same as the most stupid protocol.
Real friendship is, there aren't two faces between us, don't talk about each others, we can talk about their possitive side not from negative side, if you have a problem just tell > make a clarification > and solution. Sometimes things happen for a reason, this how the world treats you know, you have to upgrade your mind set, you should solve your problem by yourself, don't be kolokan (in Javanesse says) because your life isn't depend on others, right? don't be the pitiest person, it means you're weak and can't do anything.
Real friendship is, no matter how often you fight with your friend, but true friend still forgive each others.
Real friendship is always be your moodbooster not moodbreaker, you have to know, when we're being in serious or informal situation. You have to show off your humor-side with your own way to others, so hopefully it can make others feel joyness around you.
Real friendship is, they know what mood you're in just by looking at your expression, it means : real friend should know you so well.
And last thing, real friendship is : can make you feel comfortable around them and not disturbing your life, live in peace and they can fill your daily life with true happiness.



Honestly,
Pavita Rara
7th Feb 2018